A MESSAGE TO ALL PARENTS
This series has been understanding about the conditioning that occurs at the small group level called the Penta. The family is our first unavoidable source of conditioning when we come into the world, for good and for bad. We are most heavily conditioned in the first 7 years of life and therefore as adults have to spend 7 years deconditioning from that which took us away from our true nature. Through understanding the design of your children, you can minimize the conditioning that distorts their nature. Understand their Type of design and Inner Authority and get them to practice it. Respect them for the individuals they are rather than parent them all the same, out of convenience, when you know that they are different. This is nuanced and not a matter of not establishing healthy boundaries and being an excuse for bad behaviour. Understanding their nature can greatly improve the relationship and communication between parent and child. Here are some thoughts from the founder of Human Design:
The Penta seeks homogenization. It seeks the ability to not stand out or be different. The conditioning of the family Penta is so powerful. You want your children to be “normal.” And actually, the Penta’s ides of normal is for your children to be well-homogenized, just as messed up as everybody else’s children. Parenting is about awareness. The magic of Human Design is that it’s the science of differentiation. What’s so special about this knowledge is that it gives you a blueprint of what makes you different, what makes you unique, what makes your child different and your child unique. It’s not about looking at your child’s design and saying, oh, this is going to be a problem. The reality is that when you look at the nature of your child and you look at their design, what you’re seeing is them. Not what you want them to be. Because of the pressure that is there in the Penta, the pressure to have ‘normal’ children, we have all of these generalized false standards about what is a healthy child. Nothing has disturbed me more over the years than to see the relationship between parents and children where the parents simply do not see their child. They see what they think are symptoms of a problem instead of seeing the true normality of the child. And here we see the first dilemma that we have in parenting, that parents don’t see their differentiated child.
– Ra Uru Hu